Tuesday, November 24, 2015

Three Questions to Evaluate a Person’s Confidence

Confidence is a like a ray of sunshine, brighten the surroundings.

People are always the most invaluable asset in organizations, talent managers are always hunting for the best and brightest, but often the best or the brightness need to be assessed via the qualitative lenses, rather than quantitative measurement. Confidence is such an attribute to make one look brighter than others, but where does confidence come from, and how do you present confident, not arrogant?

Do you have positive mentality? Confidence is often a reflection of your innate mentality. Being positive is within yourself, reflects your personality, thought process put into action. A positive mental attitude is focused on strength, opportunities, and inspired actions. Confident people with positive attitude see the bright side, they have a special mindset that rain or shine, leads them to positive outcomes. It is about being your best, not beating another in a negative way. The attempting to beat another puts the bar just high enough to beat the other, whereas your best can put your bar far higher. Confidence is not equal to ego or self-centered or arrogant. Ego is actually another major stumbling block. Being confident means you know who you are, your limitation and what you don't know, so you communicate in a consistent way.  If you feel you always need to be the smartest one in the room, you're missing out. Therefore, a truly confident person may ask more than answer; compliment more than humiliate; take more risks than avoid making mistakes, and confident people with a positive attitude do positive things and make positive differences.

Can you strike the right balance between confidence and humility? Be confident means to be comfortable in your own skin. Be authentic to be true to oneself and to the world at all times -To have the ability to know that nobody is perfect but can live a dream perfectly. To constantly unlearn and fight against conditioning and to respond creatively and uniquely at all times.  Digital professionals today need to have confidence, candor, and professional humility as well, especially for the new or ‘unconventional’ leaders, the challenge is perhaps how to build the trust by overcoming the potential ‘biased’ perception, to strike the right balance of confidence and humility. A confident professional is not perfect, but progressive. Confident leaders and professionals are sure enough in themselves to know what they don't know and trust their own judgment of others to empower those around them to make an organization successful.

What’s the foundation underneath your confidence? Multidimensional intelligence, versatility, or openness? Confident people usually are multi-faceted and colorful for a number of roles, not being one dimensional. To be confident, one needs to build on their intellectual abilities through experience, learning, and motivation to improve. Confident people don’t blindly follow others, let negativity or unprofessionalism tarnish the character. And thus, it is a critical characteristic to be a truly great leader, you have to be confident in your abilities, attitude, and be confident to help seek out talent better than yourselves at specific activities, and more knowledgeable in specific domains to help make positive changes to the organization. Confident leaders support others to shine and don't feel threatened by others brightness. Confidence can overcome fears. Be courageous to take risks, creative leadership is the unique combination of leadership behaviors that develops and achieves high-quality results over a sustained period of time and risk tolerance.

Being confident is to have the right dose of ego - no more, no less. Beneath the ego is the desire to have meaning. Quite often, when we feel worthless, we can manufacture our self-worth by attempting to be someone we are not, thereby swinging the pendulum from one extreme to another. Checking our egos at the door, then, is made easier by figuring out how to overcome the fear of failure, the fear of going through life and having no meaning, and giving ourselves permission to make mistakes as a right of passage to gaining wisdom. Therefore, the solid foundation underneath confidence is positivity, authenticity, knowledge, and wisdom.


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