Tuesday, October 12, 2021


A portmanteau word “confimility” (confidence + humility) has a holistic perspective to convey professionalism in the 21st century.

Confidence means the right dose of ego, but it is not about egotism, arrogance or complacency. A confident professional is not perfect, but progressive. Being confident means to be authentic, to be true to oneself and to the world at all times. 

With exponential growth of information and continuous disruptions, either disrupting or being disrupted, confidence often needs to go hand-in-hand with humility. Confident people with a positive mental attitude usually focus on strengths, opportunities, and growth. With humility as a complementary trait, they can predict risks and pitfalls in opportunity, they can deal with conflicts and obstacles with the right attitude and discipline. Here comes a portmanteau word “confimility” (confidence + humility) with a holistic perspective to convey professionalism in the 21st century.

Confident people “listen, respect, and respond"; dare to ask and have courage to think and act differently: Self-confidence is born out of self-respect. True self-respect embraces an acknowledgment of who you are, your talents, your personal qualities, your essence and the indefinable aspect that transcends evaluation or measurement. Confident people are open to new knowledge and ideas, overcome “shadow thinking” with negative emotions such as fear, envy, change inertia, and demonstrate a positive attitude to do great things for making a difference.

Confidence is not the same as egotistic or self-centered or arrogant. A truly confident person may ask more than answer; take more risks than avoid making mistakes. Because they are sure enough in themselves to know what they don't know and trust their guts for making sound judgment. Confidence and grit give you the courage to overcome fears, take risks and fail forward. Confident people don’t blindly follow others, let unprofessionalism tarnish their character, continually build on their intellectual abilities through experience, learning, and motivation to improve.

If you are humble, you are open to learning about yourself, others, your surroundings and new knowledge/ideas: Professional leaders and professionals with humility do not lack confidence. Instead, they have the confidence and willingness to admit when they are, or might be wrong, and they are ready to say "I don't know" if facing unfamiliar arenas and circumstances. They can manage ego well, empty their mind of how things are "usually" solved, practice deep listening skills, and understand the circumstance profoundly. It requires deep insight and discipline to be truly humble. Being humble means you understand your own strengths and limitations and will look to others to help you get to your goal instead of going it alone.

But keep in mind, being overly humble could be a big negative as sometimes people might think you are not confident enough to deal with thorny issues or make tough decisions. It’s important to be humble enough to know what you don’t know, appreciate other people’s talent as that might complement yours. But always believe in yourself for making effective decisions that directly impact yourself, your organization or taking actions to make achievement, otherwise, being humble could be misunderstood as lack of competitiveness. Business leaders or managers who have a humble attitude listen to diverse viewpoints, empower their team members, respect their expertise and appreciate every team member's contribution to the overall success of the organization.

Confimility (confidence + humility) is a good combination of being confident to decide and act; as well as being humble to ask and learn: Quite often, when you feel worthless, you can manufacture your self-worth by attempting to be someone you are not, thereby swinging the pendulum from one extreme to another. Being confident is to have the right dose of ego - no more, no less. Beneath the ego is the desire to have meaning and the attitude to broaden perspectives or deepen understanding, and to have the ability to know that nobody is perfect but can live a fulfilling life perfectly.

We have the opportunity to continue learning and sharing. People with confimility can generate a specific energy in themselves to help consciously create the authentic impact they choose, knowing and being confident of their strengths and gifts, as well as knowing where they come from and being grateful for them and most importantly, using them for others' benefit. They show a risk-tolerant attitude to overcome fears and have risk intelligence to act wisely. The key is to strike the right balance and to know when it's right to be humble and when it's right to sell knowledge and wisdom. And when you do sell, sell the right things in the right way.

Business professionals today need to have confidence, candor, and professional humility to understand oneself, understand others, with the intention to discover who you are, where you are going to be, take a balancing act to explore better ways to do things, and unlock performance consistently.


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